Material things helps you to be happy

I think that it is easier to be happy if your material things are in order. I have chosen two big and important material things I like to keep in order and they are my home and my car. This might sounds ridiculous, but if my house is for example leaky and there is moisture in it’s structure I can’t sleep my nights properly. But I think that also if my home is very messy, it is not nice to live there and that messy makes me little sad. So, I like to keep my house in good condition and clean. There is also risk for overreaction, I mean that there is a lot much important and more funny things than cleaning your house. I think nobody has not felt sorry on his deathbed because he has not cleaning enough in his life. So, clean and repair your house within reasonable limits. Another thing, my car is also important, because I need my car to move from place to another and if I can’t trust my car it would be quite stressful. And if my car breaks it might be quite expensive too to fix it. So, if my car is in good condition, it gives me peace of mind.

 

And now, I must give a little explanation. I know that there is many people who totally disagrees with me and they say that my “material way to happiness” is bullshit. They also say that forget material things and concentrate mental things. I am here to tell you my own way to happiness and all I can say to justify my ideas is that I am totally happy and I have achieved it with this system. I put my material things in good condition and already during this process I felt more and more happy. After that I concentrated mental things and then it was much easier because there was no material things disturbing in my mind. So, believe or not, I recommend you to put your material things in order too. I think that it is very difficult to concentrate mental things and achieve happiness, if you for example have no money at all. Of course, I am not denying that somebody else has achieved happiness very different way than me and has for example forgotten material things and concentrated only mental things.

Get money to be happy

They are saying that richness will not bring happiness and they prove this by research with result that there is very much rich people who are not happy. I believe also that richness will not guarantee happiness, but I think that it helps a lot to achieve the happiness and if you have not money enough being happy will be harder. For example if your health is not good, you need money in many countries to fix your condition, and if you can’t do that it will be hard to be happy if you have some serious illness and you can’t fix it because you are poor. Or if you are living rented housing and you have difficulties to pay your rent every month, I am quite sure that it will be hard to be very happy with these difficulties all time. So, my advice is that put your economy to good condition.

 

First, find out what kind of work you are interested in. It will be very important that you enjoy your work, because you will spend a lot of time by working and if you don’t enjoy the work at all, it will again be hard to be happy. After you realized what you like to do, you must provide competence for that job. After that you find that kind of job for you. I don’t say that this is easy. I am saying that it is very useful to try to do that with all your power and if you try hard you will get it. When you have a nice work and salary enough, it will be easier to achieve happiness.

 

If that is not enough you and you like to be very rich, it is possible too. If you like to be rich, first thing is reduce your costs so low as possible. After that you invest in shares. Addition you start to have extra incomes by selling some know-how you have and you can also find out some other effective ways to have money. For example you can try to have some invention and patent for it and after that you can sell your invention to some company. Hard thinking and trying five or ten years and then you will be very rich J

 

So, try to have money enough for you and your costs and it will be easier to have happiness!

Have a good hobby with passion and be happier

I think that a good hobby is helpful to achieving happiness. Somebody has an interesting hobby without any kind of searching it. They only have realized that they are doing some “thing” which they like very much and after that they have understood they have a hobby. But if you don’t have any hobby, it would be little harder, because you should find that. You should find something you are very interested in and you have passion to do it. Sometimes it is easy to find it, sometimes not. But I recommend you to find it.

 

Sometimes you will have hobby from your list of things you like to do in your life. For example physical training. It is of course possible that keeping you in good condition is your hobby at the same time. This is good, because you have more time to do it. If you exercise and in addition to do some other as a hobby, you need time to do them both. Or somebody could have for example cars as his/her hobby and so his/her car is in good condition at the same time.

 

Whatever kind of hobby you are searching, I think that these things are quite important: do you like hobby, which you can develop better and better or do you like hobby which is only doing with enjoy and not any kind of progress. I mean that if you for example are running as your hobby, you can be better and better, but if you are for example travelling as your hobby, there is no that kind of progress (of course you will be more experience, have a better knowledge of languages and so on) and you can only travel and enjoy it without targets to be better and better traveler. Which one you would like more? Have a hobby you can be better and better or not like that kind of hobby? And second thing is would you like hobby you can break off for weeks or even for months and after that you can continue from the same level you were before your break or would you like hobby the breaks are not good. For example if you are running as your hobby there is no good if you break off for weeks. But if you are taking photographs as your hobby you can continue taking photos after your break like there was not any kind of break.

 

So, keep these advices in your mind and search a hobby you have passion and with progression or not and with possible breaks or not. After that enjoy your hobby and that enjoying helps you be more happy.

How to start to be happy?

Now, let’s repeat what I have written here. On the way to happiness, first decide to end of your earlier life and start to be happy. Realize that you can make your life that kind of you like. Second decide what you like to do in your life. Third decide what kind of human being you like to be. Start now, forget past, and start to make your things to that kind of you like. Make two lists: things which you like to do and things which kind you like to be. Then start to make things in your lists better and when you get them better, you realize that you are happier and happier. Remember all time that everything you can do or be happen at this moment, so, you can relax and concentrate this moment and enjoy your life, prizes from what you have done and be will run to you in your days in future.

 

I recommended that first thing you like to do is take care of yourself. If you are friendly and good person, you will have very much good things. Take care of your body and go to doctor if there is need to do so. Dress well, stylish and comfortable. If your body and your style is in good condition, it helps you to be happy. If you sleep, exercise and eat properly, these all together help very much you to be happy. And these help each other too. I mean that if you are training, but not sleeping and eating well, that is not good. You must do all these things and only after that they have super power together and they lead you to happiness. Believe me and try!

 

After these things you are quite far on the way to happiness. The next thing I recommend to you is have a nice hobby. That kind of hobby you have passion to do it. I will write about that in the next time.

Eat to happiness

Now when I am listing important concrete and ordinary things on the way to happiness, I know that there is people who think that happiness comes from inside our minds and that is all you need. Forget doing and doing, sit down, meditate and achieve peace of mind. I believe that they are right, that way to happiness is possible too. I believe there is many ways to happiness and like I said early, I am telling to you my way. I have realized that there is concrete things which make it easier to be happy if you take care of them. After these concrete things were well, I sat down and achieved peace of mind and then it was much easier to me. One of these things is good and wholesome food.

 

If you eat good and wholesome food, you feel good and your health is better. In long period you feel better and better. When your body is feeling great, it is easier to be happy. You have a lot of energy to do important things and things you most like too. And when you do important things, your mind is feeling great, because there is no undone things you should worry about. You know that your things are well. If you are training physically, you will improve more with the same amount of training if your diet is good for sportsman or –woman.

 

I am not a food expert and I can’t tell you what you should eat, but there is many good websites and books where you can find information about healthy food. Later I can help you to find that information and tell you what is my diet.

 

There is many things which have effect to each other and together they have very much power to make you feel great. Now I have listed my important things including the idea of “I take care myself” and the next time I write summary for these things and tell you how they affect to each other.

Sleep to happiness

Human being needs to sleep and it is very good to you if you sleep enough. I think that this is true and there is nobody disclaiming that and say that it is good and healthy if you don’t sleep enough. However, let’s review the importance of sleeping enough on the way to happiness.

 

First, if you don’t sleep enough, you will feel bad physically and mentally. And when you feel bad physically and/or mentally you are not able to do things well in your life. So, you can’t do well the things from your list of important concrete things you want to do in your life. So, you can’t jump up to higher levels with things from your list of important concrete things you want to do in your life. This makes it more difficult to get happiness. You realize that your things are not in so good situation you would like, but you are not able to do anything to get those things better. So, sleep, because when you sleep enough you feel better physically and mentally and you are able to improve your life. If you are tired you can’t do enough to get happiness or at least it would be much more difficult.

 

Second, realize that you don’t have time to be without sleeping. And what does this means? If you feel that you have so much things to do that you have no time to sleep, I like to say you that if you sleep enough you can do much more things than if you don’t sleep enough. And why it is so? Maybe couple of days or even week or little over you can do more things by having time from sleeping. I mean that you don’t sleep so much and work that time. In a short period you can do more by doing like that. But how it is in long period? I am very sure that if you do things less in a day and have time to sleep enough, you can do much more things for example in a month. In long period you can do much more important things and you can do those things carefully and with good results. So, when you sleep well, you are effective in your work too. And when you train physically, you can't improve properly without sleep enough. So, it is very sad that there is people who works very much and hard to have good condiotion and leave the easy part (= sleeping) away and have no good results from their hard work. They can be hardworking, but they have no good results from that, because they don't sleep.

 

But I of course know that there is people who can’t sleep even they have time to do it. They don’t fall asleep or if they do so they wake up in the middle of the night and sit up until the morning. This is very bad thing and with this thing I recommend to do like with any disease and turn to your doctor and do everything possible to have good sleep.

 

Finally I repeat myself, because this is so important. Sleep well and feel better mentally and physically and be able to do important things better which makes you feel even better and better. You can jump to the positive spiral which carries you higher and higher to happiness.

Maybe next time we will finally continue with wholesome food  also J

 

Exercise to happiness

One very useful thing  on the way to happiness is keeping in good condition with physical exercise. It has been proved that physical exercise generate endorphin which make us feel good. And also when you are in good condition you will not become tired so easy and if you are not tired you feel good and you can do things important to you and your happiness. I underline this and ask you to start physical exercise if you don’t have started it already. And if you have started it already, I ask you to continue. It is one of the most incredible feeling when you are already in good condition, you keep in exercise and will have better and better condition. Believe me, it is one of most forceful factor to achieve happiness.

 

If you already exercise and you are motivated to do it, this thing is all right with you, keep going! I give some advices them who has not started yet. First there is no meaning what is your condition now. The inferior your condition is the more funny it will be, because your progress will be huge. First, you must find sport you like most to do. This is very important. We must enjoy to exercise and it would be very hard if you don’t like the sport you exercise. And if you have some health reason you can’t for example to run, you must choose something else. So, choose the sport you can do and you most like.

 

Second and also very important thing is that you must not start to exercise too much! It is very common mistake that we have enthusiasm early and start to exercise for example four or five times in the week and half or even one hour in a day. Then we exercise two or three weeks and after that it will be end. We will get tired of exercise and stop it. There were not any use training like that. I have trained even twenty hours in a week and I have enjoyed it. I have also got tired of training and stopped after three weeks (many years ago I started and stopped, started and stopped). Now I know how it will be possible to train much, enjoy it and don’t like to stop it. This has worked for me and a lot of my friends who I am coaching. This has worked with my friends who have tried earlier many times to start training, but always failed. Now they have trained months and years, they feel good and enjoy exercise and have better and better condition.

 

The idea is not to start with too much training. This require will power. You start with very little amounts. You start exercise only 10 – 15 minutes in a day and four times in a week. The secret is that it is easy to do that and so you'll succeed. And when you'll succeed, you'll feel like a winner. You must be disciplined because it is not allowed to do more, only 10 – 15 minutes per day and four times per week. You will continue at least a month like that. After a month you have won all those starters who has stopped after two or three weeks. And what’s better, you are still motivated to continue. After a month you have also some kind of routine to exercise and if you have routine it will be easy to continue. After a month you will raise time in your exercise but not too much. You start to train 20 minutes in a day and four times in a week. After a month doing like that, you start to train 15 – 30 minutes per day, four times per week, in the way you will chance the time. Sometimes you train only 15 minutes and sometimes 30 minutes. Keep going like this, train more and more, but remember that there is no meaning to train more than your goal requires. If your goal is only feeling good and have health, it will be enough to train four times in a week and that 30 minutes per day. And if you like to run marathon you must train more and more.

 

This system is based on that human being adapts to current circumstances. If we would work four hours in a day and our boss would say in some day that today we will work six hours it would sound very bad for us. But now when we work maybe eight hours in a day six hours would sound very easy and nice. I have increased my training time with so little steps that for example running one and half hour is piece of cake for me mentally and physically because I am adapted to train even much more.

 

Next time we will continue with sleeping and wholesome food J

Taking care of your body helps you to be happy

Let’s continue with taking care of ourselves. Mental well-being is our main goal, but it is useful to take care of our physical well-being too. So, one thing I like to do in my life is take care of my body.

 

Firstly I keep my body clean, my hair clean-cut, my teeth in good condition, my nails cut and clean and so on. I know this might sound foolish to list this kind of things, but to be happy it is useful that you feel comfortable with your body. More important and serious thing is your health. You must do your best with your health. You do all you can and what you can’t do you turn to the doctor. Even you have some serious illness, it helps if you know you have done all you can and the doctor too. One important thing on the way to happiness is do our best in everything  which matter and after that learn to relax because there is nothing else to do with that thing, so it no use to worry about it. This is valid with health too. Do all you can and then learn to be not worried about it. I know that there is situations in which this is very difficult and I am sorry if I hurt somebody with writing like that “learn to be not worried about it”.

 

We are going to list all things we regard as relevant to do. And this might also sounds foolish, but it has helped me to be happy, when I know exactly what I like to do in my life and what I don’t like to do in my life. We take care of our bodies by self-caring and with doctor. In addition I like to wear snappy clothes and also comfortable clothes. That makes me feel better and gives me self-confidence in social situations.  I think that nice clothes also helps me to be happy.

 

In the next time I will start to write about very important things in the theme “taking care of ourselves” and these are physical exercising, sleeping and wholesome food.

Be nice, be happy!

Now we have gained first insight into being happy. And it is that we know, what we like to do, we know what kind of human being we like to be, we are not living in a hurry, we can enjoy this moment and do things and just be at this moment. And we also know that our life is going better and better. Now it is time to work with our lists more exactly. Let’s start with concrete things.

 

I recommend that the list includes that: “I take care myself”. This is important in a way to be happy. And the question is, what does this mean?

 

First, we take care of our mental well-being. This whole project is of course big part of that and all what I have wrote and I am going to write here is the way I take care of my mental well-being. I also believe one little mystic thing, because I have realized very many times that it works. That thing is that if you are a good person who is doing nice things and keeping your conscience clear, a lot of nice things will happen to you. All I can say to justify this is that try it yourself. I have done it very many times, nowadays round the clock and all time I feel lucky because nice things happen to me. Earlier I have done some not so good things and after that I met some little or bigger accident. I know it is possible that all was only coincidence or all was only in my mind and I have imagined it, but why that happened so many times? Whatever the truth is, I recommend you to try it. Be nice, do nice things and behave friendly. You will realized the power of that!

Basic idea to be happiness

The mental level is more complicated to define than concrete level, because things in mental level are not so concrete as in concrete level (really J). These terms “concrete level” and “mental level” I have invented and of course they don’t have official status or anything like that. And whole this project to have happiness is aiming to high level in mental level. So, your mental level is how happy you are now. In addition that we have concrete things with effect to our happiness, we have our behavior which have effect to our happiness.

 

We are trying to be happy and we have roughly listed different concrete things have effect to be happy and we know what we like to do in our life, so now we concentrate to think what kind of human being we like to be? Do I like to be friendly or unfriendly, hardworking or lazy, with positive or negative attitude and so on. Okay, maybe everybody like to be friendly and with positive attitude, but what I mean is you can also now write down things what kind human being you like to be. And again not very long list and here is my list for example:

 

-        I don’t speak ill of the other people

-        I don’t praise myself

-        I am a friendly man, willing to help the other people and smiling a lot

-        I am a calm man

-        I have good nervous

-        I am honest

 

With things in the list you are also in some level and now you start to jump to the next level and so on. When your list is ready, you know what kind of human being you like to be. You like to be a man or woman with qualities in your list. We will return to this list because things are not yet exact enough.

 

My point is now that if you know what you like to do in your life and what kind of human being you like to be in your life, that is enough. In your life you can do things and you can be some kind of man or woman and that is all you can! And you can that only this moment, because you can’t do things now in the future or you can’t be some kind of human being now in the future. So, concentrate what you are doing and being right now at this moment. You can relax and enjoy this moment, everything else has no sense.

Concrete things in a way to happiness

So, you have concrete and mental level. Now you maybe need little pen and paper and thinking. Think what are those things belong in your concrete level? This means that you write down things which are so important that they have effect your happiness. I think that these concrete things are important to have happiness. In practice it is very hard to be happy if you for example feel very lonely. I don’t say it is impossible to be happy without concrete things are well, but I think it is much easier to be happy if your things are going well. It is important that you write on your list only things with really significance. It is not good if your list is very long. If it is, you must think again and leave only important things on the list. For example my list is here:

 

-        I take care myself

-        I have a hobby with great passion

-        I have a work and so my economy is all right

-        My house and car is in good condition

-        I have people around me and much relaxing leisure

 

When your list is ready, you know what do you like to do in your life. You like to do things from your list. And you have no need to do things out of your list. We will return to this list because things are not yet exact enough.

 

Now if your list is not too long, you can concentrate these important things and what is very important too, you realize that you have time enough to do these things. This is of great concern to your happiness that you don’t need to hurry in your life. If you are hurry, you don’t do things well and you burn yourself to the end. Your concrete level is what is your situation with these things on your list. For example if you have very pleasing job and good salary, you are in high level in this concrete thing, maybe there is nothing more you like with this thing? And for example if you feel very lonely, you are down level in this concrete thing and you need to do something with it. Now you know what is the idea of the concrete level, but I will explain it much more exactly in future.

 

So, now you know roughly what to do in your life and what is the idea of the concrete level. In the next time we talk about the mental level.

First steps to happiness

First step I took, was making the decision to close my life before that moment and to start the new one. I decided  that my new life start immediately and it will be happy life. It is important to realize how much you can effect things in your life. You really can build your life to that kind of you like. You are the manager director of your life. Okay, but don’t think that more, I will explain everything to you. At this starting point you must only make the decision to start a new happy life and that is all. But that is not a little thing. You must really decide that and be motivated. If you don’t have motivation to be happy person you need “only” good luck and then you can be happy, but if you don’t have that kind of luck that everything goes very well without your work, you must work to have happiness. So decide to start a new happy life.

 

Next step is a little logical deduction. What has happened in your life is past. If there is important bad things in your past, which you can and should still correct, you must correct them and this correction belong to your life after this moment. So in every cases you have life only at and after this moment (simple, isn’t it?). At this moment you are in the certain level in your life and you will start now to make jumps next and next levels. And there is no mean at all what is your level when you start. Whatever your level is you start to make jumps to the next levels. So you can be already happy, because you can see there is only better life in your future. Of course there will be also smaller or bigger kickbacks in future, but those are only temporary and I will also tell you how you can handle kickbacks without losing your happiness. What are these “levels”? You have very many “things” in your life. You have your health situation, economy, family, maybe a car and a house and so on. The concrete level is how is it with those things. Are your health good, have you good relationship with your wife or husband, do your car works well and so on to the every little details too. The mental level is what is in your mind. How you looks things, happenings, people and so on, and what is your attitude to everything you meet. So, your concrete and mental level is something right now and you are going to make them higher and higher. I will tell you how I made jumps to next levels. This jumping to next levels is the way to total happiness. And in the next time I will tell you more about these levels.

Introduction in way to happiness

So, my purpose is present my way to happiness. I don’t imagine that this works for everyone and I know that it is naive to think that only doing and thinking like I say you will be happy. I don’t even know who you are and what is your situation in your life. You are maybe in prison, badly ill or in war, I can’t know. You can also be already very happy or just searching more happiness. However your things are I can’t promise any use to you by reading my blog, but my point is that if this help even one person I like to do this to help him or her. So, the choice is yours.

 

I have read a lot of about being happy and how you will be happy. Of course I have learnt much in that way too, but I think that the most important thing has been what I have done for my happiness by thinking, trying and making some things right and some wrong. The result is some kind of combination of what I have read and what I have done myself, and combination of thinking and changing my attitude and the way of thinking and also very many concrete action. I have progressed step by step and not very fast. People say that “there is no shortcut to happiness or success”, but I disagree with that. There is very fast shortcuts to happiness and success. If you work alone and try to find out everything by yourself, you are not on the shortest way. The shortcut to the goal is finding out how other people has achieved the goal you are going to achieve. Maybe you can do things in the same way and get to the goal much faster (this is valid whatever the goal is, happiness, diet, good results in sport or whatever)? Maybe my way to happiness works with you too? But like I said,  I can’t promise that, but let’s find it out?

Starting

I am just learning to use this blogger, but I am going to write quite long story here and I will start it soon. I know there is very many way to achieve happiness. I like to introduce my way to everybody in the world who are interested in it. I like to tell my way because I have achieved total happiness and like to help people to the same. So, be ready there, I'll be back :)

Testing

I am very beginner and now I would like only to test this blog first.