Be nice, be happy!

Now we have gained first insight into being happy. And it is that we know, what we like to do, we know what kind of human being we like to be, we are not living in a hurry, we can enjoy this moment and do things and just be at this moment. And we also know that our life is going better and better. Now it is time to work with our lists more exactly. Let’s start with concrete things.

 

I recommend that the list includes that: “I take care myself”. This is important in a way to be happy. And the question is, what does this mean?

 

First, we take care of our mental well-being. This whole project is of course big part of that and all what I have wrote and I am going to write here is the way I take care of my mental well-being. I also believe one little mystic thing, because I have realized very many times that it works. That thing is that if you are a good person who is doing nice things and keeping your conscience clear, a lot of nice things will happen to you. All I can say to justify this is that try it yourself. I have done it very many times, nowadays round the clock and all time I feel lucky because nice things happen to me. Earlier I have done some not so good things and after that I met some little or bigger accident. I know it is possible that all was only coincidence or all was only in my mind and I have imagined it, but why that happened so many times? Whatever the truth is, I recommend you to try it. Be nice, do nice things and behave friendly. You will realized the power of that!

Basic idea to be happiness

The mental level is more complicated to define than concrete level, because things in mental level are not so concrete as in concrete level (really J). These terms “concrete level” and “mental level” I have invented and of course they don’t have official status or anything like that. And whole this project to have happiness is aiming to high level in mental level. So, your mental level is how happy you are now. In addition that we have concrete things with effect to our happiness, we have our behavior which have effect to our happiness.

 

We are trying to be happy and we have roughly listed different concrete things have effect to be happy and we know what we like to do in our life, so now we concentrate to think what kind of human being we like to be? Do I like to be friendly or unfriendly, hardworking or lazy, with positive or negative attitude and so on. Okay, maybe everybody like to be friendly and with positive attitude, but what I mean is you can also now write down things what kind human being you like to be. And again not very long list and here is my list for example:

 

-        I don’t speak ill of the other people

-        I don’t praise myself

-        I am a friendly man, willing to help the other people and smiling a lot

-        I am a calm man

-        I have good nervous

-        I am honest

 

With things in the list you are also in some level and now you start to jump to the next level and so on. When your list is ready, you know what kind of human being you like to be. You like to be a man or woman with qualities in your list. We will return to this list because things are not yet exact enough.

 

My point is now that if you know what you like to do in your life and what kind of human being you like to be in your life, that is enough. In your life you can do things and you can be some kind of man or woman and that is all you can! And you can that only this moment, because you can’t do things now in the future or you can’t be some kind of human being now in the future. So, concentrate what you are doing and being right now at this moment. You can relax and enjoy this moment, everything else has no sense.

Concrete things in a way to happiness

So, you have concrete and mental level. Now you maybe need little pen and paper and thinking. Think what are those things belong in your concrete level? This means that you write down things which are so important that they have effect your happiness. I think that these concrete things are important to have happiness. In practice it is very hard to be happy if you for example feel very lonely. I don’t say it is impossible to be happy without concrete things are well, but I think it is much easier to be happy if your things are going well. It is important that you write on your list only things with really significance. It is not good if your list is very long. If it is, you must think again and leave only important things on the list. For example my list is here:

 

-        I take care myself

-        I have a hobby with great passion

-        I have a work and so my economy is all right

-        My house and car is in good condition

-        I have people around me and much relaxing leisure

 

When your list is ready, you know what do you like to do in your life. You like to do things from your list. And you have no need to do things out of your list. We will return to this list because things are not yet exact enough.

 

Now if your list is not too long, you can concentrate these important things and what is very important too, you realize that you have time enough to do these things. This is of great concern to your happiness that you don’t need to hurry in your life. If you are hurry, you don’t do things well and you burn yourself to the end. Your concrete level is what is your situation with these things on your list. For example if you have very pleasing job and good salary, you are in high level in this concrete thing, maybe there is nothing more you like with this thing? And for example if you feel very lonely, you are down level in this concrete thing and you need to do something with it. Now you know what is the idea of the concrete level, but I will explain it much more exactly in future.

 

So, now you know roughly what to do in your life and what is the idea of the concrete level. In the next time we talk about the mental level.

First steps to happiness

First step I took, was making the decision to close my life before that moment and to start the new one. I decided  that my new life start immediately and it will be happy life. It is important to realize how much you can effect things in your life. You really can build your life to that kind of you like. You are the manager director of your life. Okay, but don’t think that more, I will explain everything to you. At this starting point you must only make the decision to start a new happy life and that is all. But that is not a little thing. You must really decide that and be motivated. If you don’t have motivation to be happy person you need “only” good luck and then you can be happy, but if you don’t have that kind of luck that everything goes very well without your work, you must work to have happiness. So decide to start a new happy life.

 

Next step is a little logical deduction. What has happened in your life is past. If there is important bad things in your past, which you can and should still correct, you must correct them and this correction belong to your life after this moment. So in every cases you have life only at and after this moment (simple, isn’t it?). At this moment you are in the certain level in your life and you will start now to make jumps next and next levels. And there is no mean at all what is your level when you start. Whatever your level is you start to make jumps to the next levels. So you can be already happy, because you can see there is only better life in your future. Of course there will be also smaller or bigger kickbacks in future, but those are only temporary and I will also tell you how you can handle kickbacks without losing your happiness. What are these “levels”? You have very many “things” in your life. You have your health situation, economy, family, maybe a car and a house and so on. The concrete level is how is it with those things. Are your health good, have you good relationship with your wife or husband, do your car works well and so on to the every little details too. The mental level is what is in your mind. How you looks things, happenings, people and so on, and what is your attitude to everything you meet. So, your concrete and mental level is something right now and you are going to make them higher and higher. I will tell you how I made jumps to next levels. This jumping to next levels is the way to total happiness. And in the next time I will tell you more about these levels.

Introduction in way to happiness

So, my purpose is present my way to happiness. I don’t imagine that this works for everyone and I know that it is naive to think that only doing and thinking like I say you will be happy. I don’t even know who you are and what is your situation in your life. You are maybe in prison, badly ill or in war, I can’t know. You can also be already very happy or just searching more happiness. However your things are I can’t promise any use to you by reading my blog, but my point is that if this help even one person I like to do this to help him or her. So, the choice is yours.

 

I have read a lot of about being happy and how you will be happy. Of course I have learnt much in that way too, but I think that the most important thing has been what I have done for my happiness by thinking, trying and making some things right and some wrong. The result is some kind of combination of what I have read and what I have done myself, and combination of thinking and changing my attitude and the way of thinking and also very many concrete action. I have progressed step by step and not very fast. People say that “there is no shortcut to happiness or success”, but I disagree with that. There is very fast shortcuts to happiness and success. If you work alone and try to find out everything by yourself, you are not on the shortest way. The shortcut to the goal is finding out how other people has achieved the goal you are going to achieve. Maybe you can do things in the same way and get to the goal much faster (this is valid whatever the goal is, happiness, diet, good results in sport or whatever)? Maybe my way to happiness works with you too? But like I said,  I can’t promise that, but let’s find it out?

Starting

I am just learning to use this blogger, but I am going to write quite long story here and I will start it soon. I know there is very many way to achieve happiness. I like to introduce my way to everybody in the world who are interested in it. I like to tell my way because I have achieved total happiness and like to help people to the same. So, be ready there, I'll be back :)

Testing

I am very beginner and now I would like only to test this blog first.